Confidence is something that can feel almost impossible to find for some people. This can have a severe impact on your professional and personal life, as well as impact your mental well-being. No matter what you do, sometimes you never feel quite good enough. Instead, you second guess everything you do. You avoid making significant changes in your life, and you end up stagnating.
It is possible to become more confident, though, and if you want to stand out and make positive changes in your life, you must know how to do it. So, here are five ways to help you get started.
Take Responsibility for Yourself
You cannot expect others to give you the confidence you need, even if your mum tells you how great you are or your boss sings your praises in meetings. While this is always good to hear, it isn’t enough to boost your confidence the way you need,
Instead, you must take responsibility for yourself and make changes that only you can make. This means hitting the gym or planning exercise if you want to get into shape and feel ready for summer. It means taking on additional responsibility at work to prove yourself, or even obtaining certifications to boost your career prospects. Eating better, sleeping better, taking more care of yourself and focusing on doing what you love.
While people can guide you in the right direction, they can’t carry you the entire way, so make sure you do some of the legwork, also.
Being organised is one of the best ways you can become more confident overnight. If you plan out your day, week, and month, you will feel you’re in better control of everything.
And being in control means you know what you’re doing. You will have a thorough idea of what you need to say in pitches and meetings, which will save any awkward dead air space. You’ll have the answers for every question, and this will demonstrate you are someone entirely aware of what is expected of them.
It doesn’t take long to jot down your schedule for the week once you find out about it, and it will save you from missing appointments and meetings or running late. You can even have a sheet with your goals written down on it in a visible place, so everyday you can see where you need to be aligning your life.
A tidy, organised mind and life will set you in good stead – it makes everything so much more clearer.
Experiment With Life
Confidence comes from experience, but if you never do anything, how can you expect to feel more confident? One useful way to boost your confidence is to experiment with life and do things that you never normally do by getting out of your comfort zone.
Too many people have the attitude of ‘I can’t’. They are worried about failing, but just trying something never hurts anybody, and you might find a new passion to indulge in. Likewise, you can also take a look at yourself and consider things you’d always wanted to change but were reluctant as you didn’t want to draw attention to it.
Whether it’s improving your smile with Veneers or dyeing your hair a different colour, such a switch-up could transform your look and make you feel more confident by the end of the day. It could even be just believing you are pretty enough (which you are – everyone is beautiful) to try out different looks and hold your head up high everyday.
Dress to Impress
Many people will tell you that you shouldn’t dress for others, but this isn’t always the case. For many professionals, looking sharp and sophisticated on your way to the office will enhance your confidence, because you know you look the part. Of course, don’t wear things that others ‘think’ you should wear – you know your own style – but do have a think about the message you convey with how you dress for the day.
The evidence for this is when you consider the opposite. How many times have you dreaded going out because you couldn’t find the perfect balance in your outfit? How often did you wish you were back home once you realised you had a slight (and virtually unnoticeable) sauce stain on your blouse?
You should dress to impress to boost your confidence, and even if you don’t impress anyone else, impressing yourself is still a winning formula. It’s for you. Looking good results to feeling good.
Too many people go through life being hard on themselves, even if they do this under the guise of self-deprecation. The problem with this is that even if it starts as a joke, many will begin to believe it, and this can severely impact your confidence.
You will need to change your thought process to prevent this. Instead of reminding yourself how much of a mess you are, tell yourself that you are a successful, kind, and warm person. By identifying these good qualities and reminding yourself daily, you will find your ordinary thoughts shift from negative to positive.
A Whole New You
Confidence is not something you can obtain overnight. You will need to give it the chance to grow and become a part of you. However, while it can take some time, you will see results eventually,m and this can signal a significant change in your personal and professional life.