Dating when you were a younger, fresher adult in your twenties seemed to be much more care free. You kind of have this laid back air about you, knowing that there is a world of opportunity out there, without any stress or fear.
Fast forward to being in your forties plus, and suddenly you seem to become a little more cautious. Perhaps it’s because you are more set on looking for a life partner, and want to avoid any time wasters. This means you’ll go into online dating perhaps not being so open to just ‘chat’.
But maybe you’re in your forties, fifties or sixties and aren’t even sure if you want a serious relationship. Maybe it’s just companionship you want, or even a bit of fun.
Whatever you are seeking, here are a number of tips for staying safe online yet enjoying the experience at the same time:
Always check the person
Luckily, due to growing social media and how brilliant Google is, it’s super easy to find someone’s profile on the internet away from the dating site. Say for example you choose to look for a date on an over 50s dating site, and you talk to someone who somehow doesn’t seem to be in or around his 50’s in age, just by some of the things he says.
Do as much searching online as you can with as much information as you can gather from them. If they are genuinely in their 50’s or older, they might not be on social media sites, so your search might be a little harder.
It’s lovely to be able to enjoy dating sites for over 50s, and ideally, you’ll meet lots of potential matches. However, do remember to protect yourself at all times, and have privacy settings in place.
Be extra vigilant and careful to not divulge too much personal information too early on, as tempting as it may be. Keep reminding yourself that until you meet, they are potentially a stranger. So under no circumstances should you give out your address until you’re in an established, in-person relationship.
Meet as soon as possible
The nature of online dating makes it too easy to keep talking for what can be weeks, months and even years. Try to avoid this if you can, as it’s easy for people to keep secrets — or flat-out lie — when the relationship is strictly online.
It’s much harder to do this when you meet up on person. If you live long distance from each other, try to have skype chat so you can at least have the visual communication.
Trust your gut
If a person sounds too good to be true, they probably are. It’s too easy to create a persona online that can appear to be the absolute dream person.
I’m not saying that people can’t blow you away, but look out for anything too fancy or unreal. Genuinely good people have a lot of plus points, but they’ll also share little flaws too. It’s these signs that are worth looking out for.
Don’t rush the process
There are a few situations online where you will meet people who start to skip the ‘getting to know each other’ chat and go straight to the ‘sexy taljk’. Beware of these types of premature declarations. They make it easy to fall too fast, but you have to remember that you haven’t actually met this person yet.
Remember that it isn’t a negative if you offend or make them feel uncomfortable if someone is pursuing you online. You have every right to ask as many questions as needed to put your mind at ease. If you feel you need to know more, or need more time before you meet, remember there is no rush, and don’t let the other person make you feel wrong about this.
Share details with a friend
Before you meet someone for the first time, tell a friend about the online relationship. Share a few details with your closest pals and ask them if they can identify any red flags. More importantly, when you go on the date for the first time, make sure someone else knows where you have gone and when.
Online dating is fantastic for all ages, but with the rise in over 50s dating, it makes life easier for those who are older adults and want to meet someone special. Just remember that it is always better to be safe than sorry, so be wary when possible and always think about yourself first.